Adoption and Foster Care: Ways to Prepare for That New Family Member

Adoption and foster care might have their own set of differences, but the similarity lies in accommodating a new family member. It doesn't matter whether they are going to stay with you for a few days, months or even a lifetime, there is often a set of challenges that come with new change. Yes, it sure is a blessing but even that requires a share of resilience and love. It's a tough calling that will teach you all aspects of child welfare, but at the end of the day, the effort is worth it.

So if this seems like the direction you want to take, here are some tips to get you ready. 

Be Ready For Opposition 
Yes, you might be ready to undergo the fostering process and even your immediate family members might agree with your decision, but not all people will be supportive. Some of your close associates might find it admirable that you're ready to take in child and provide the care that they need. But others might be left wondering why you would want to place your family into emotional turmoil when you will have to let the child go after some time.  

Take time to educate your close circle about your reasoning concerning the matter, because it's important to you. But keep in mind this is your mission and so not everyone else will understand. Let no one make you feel discouraged. 

Research and Ask Questions 
Now that your mind is set about this adoption and fostering issue, there is no need to rush. Take your time to research about it. Discuss it with other parents who have gone through the same, reach out to professionals and ask as many questions as possible. Be a subscriber to related blogs and get to read on the day to day encounters of others. And of course, don't forget to join the online community at for tremendous information.  

Build A Support System 
The adoption/fostering journey isn't always smooth. There will be those days you will need a shoulder to lean on for advice. Work on surrounding yourself with people who believe in your mission and would do anything to help you succeed. Get approved babysitters in your circle and have a " go-to" professional a phone call away. Crisis can strike at any time. And if possible have some few caseworkers at your side to motivate you through the system. 

Enroll Yourself or Training 
Yes, you might have successfully brought up your children, but that doesn't make you a super trauma parent. Remember most of these children set for adoption or fostering have undergone a lot in life. Some of them have had traumatic experiences that leave them with deep scars. 

You will have to soak in information pertaining offering support on emotional stability, coping skills and support for the trauma affected individuals. Your home environment will for the first few weeks or probably months, be turned into a therapeutic center for your new family member. 

Allow Experience To Shape You 
It's okay to show your child that you are willing to do anything to ensure they are comfortable in their new environment. However, it doesn't mean that you will be 100% prepared for their arrival before the big day. Avoid being hard on yourself and feeling inadequate. While most of the information you gathered will be helpful, you still have so much more to learn. Most of the things you will learn along the way with the presence of your child. You're also bound to make mistakes but that doesn't make you a bad parent. Be steadfast  and never waste a minute to show your new family member how much they mean to you. Sometimes it might take to win their trust, but you will surely get there and secure a place in their little hearts.  

Find A Consented Child Care For Them 
If you are working and decide to settle for a child who can attend childcare or one who will require care after school, then ensure you have a list of approved care centers. Remember not all accept foster children, so the longer the list, the better. This way you won't have to struggle when it comes to finding replacements. 

Also, take this chance to educate child care centers on the importance of registering with social services. Sometimes it's not because they are unwilling but because they lack sufficient information. It takes a community to bring-up responsible adults.  

Despite the challenges that come with child adoption/fostering, in most accounts, the process is so rewarding for families. Just have realistic expectations and keep an open mind. Also, don't forget to surround yourself with a good support system for those "bad" days. Otherwise, it's a wonderful way of growing your family.

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